Perhaps you’re curious about anal sex or you’ve tried it — maybe you do it a lot. The truth is, anal sex mechanics can seem confusing. The big question many have is: Can anal sex do permanent damage? This is a legitimate concern. Ian Kerner, Ph.D. says he hasn’t heard of a rectum getting permanently stretched out from anal sex, but it could happen to the anal sphincter muscle, which is right at the end of the anus. “That muscle is designed to tighten to retain feces until released, so the sphincter could potentially weaken,” he says.
But you don’t have to give up butt play for fear of damaging that muscle. In fact, kegels — mainly known for strengthening the pelvic floor muscles — can also tone up the sphincter. Read on to learn a few other things you should be doing to keep your butt healthy.
Use Plenty of Lubrication
This is incredibly important for anal sex. The tissue is sensitive and the rectum doesn’t lubricate, so there is a possibility for easy tearing that would be painful. Not enough lubrication can also cause hemorrhoids, so be sure to keep things very lubricated back there,
Your sphincter will probably be tense if you are. A sphincter that is tight can lead to tearing and pain, which you definitely do not want.
Use a Condom
It’s important for safe sex, of course, but particularly important for anal sex. Your anus contains a significant amount of bacteria, which is easily spreadable. Be sure that he uses a condom to protect himself from the bacteria and to keep the bacteria from getting on you during any action after penetration.
Know Your Gastrointestinal Tract
Don’t do it if you suffer from Irritable Bowel Syndrome, for example. Kerner explains that anal sex can actually trigger a bout of it, which is definitely a mood killers. Keep in mind that: “If something feels wrong, it probably is wrong,” says Kerner. “If you detect any kind of irritation, it’s time to give the butt a break.”