Living the Life of a Swinger

Living the Life of a Swinger

Living the Life of a Swinger

Let’s face it — there comes a point in some relationships when sex toys just don’t add enough spice to the bedroom. For many people who find themselves in this situation, they turn to swinging.

What is Swinging?

Swinging takes place when both parties in a relationship are okay with one another taking part in sexual acts with one or more people who aren’t in the relationship.  If both parties aren’t okay with this lifestyle,  then engaging in sexual activities with other people would be considered cheating.

Swinging takes complete willingness between both partners, with each person feeling comfortable and open enough to share feelings about having sex with other people.  When letting other people into the bedroom, there should always be a few ground rules established in beginning.  These rules will vary from one couple to the next.

Some couples may prefer that when swinging that the sexual encounters take place in separate rooms.  Others may prefer that the sex take place in front of one another while the other party watches.  There are even some relationships where it is completely okay that each party take on any sexual relationships that they want, regardless of whether or not the other party knows. Here’s a quick look at the pros and cons to take into consideration when living the life of a swinger.

Pros
One of the pros that swinging provides is the ability to spice things up in a relationship.  After all, having something new and exciting — another person or another couple — can bring a couple closer together.

Swinging can also boost your confidence because it’s nice to know that someone else is interested and intrigued with your body, which makes you feel wanted.  You’ll also find that living the life of a swinger means the two of you will be very open about your sexual desires, which can relieve much stress in your relationship.  It’s pertinent that you realize, though, that taking part in the lifestyle of a swinger is something that both you and your partner should be in full agreement about.

Cons
The primary con associated with swinging is that IF both partners are not in agreement to a swinging lifestyle, this can wreak havoc on your relationship and/or marriage.  There are many people who can’t stand the thought of seeing their spouse sexually involved with another person, so you must discuss this with your partner to see if it something both of you want and will enjoy doing.

Sometimes, being open to the fact that you and your spouse swing may not look good in the eyes of other people.  If you are the type of person who values the opinions of other people, it’s important to note that the lifestyle of a swinger is looked down upon by many people.

Another thing to consider when letting other people into your sex life is the possibility of contracting an STD, or unwanted pregnancy.  Furthermore, some people like the thought of swinging, but after taking part in it, they develop the feeling of ‘being used’ or as if they are inadequate to their primary sexual partner.

 

If you and your partner are looking to spice things up, then entering the swinger’s lifestyle is definitely worth looking into.  Just make sure the both of you are ready before diving in headfirst.   It’s even okay to talk to other swingers to see how they started and how it went for them when venturing into the lifestyle.

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