You probably believe at least one common myth about female orgasms. They’re a hot topic! We wonder what’s true, what isn’t, and if “the truth” is different for everyone. It’s frustrating and we’re left to make sense of our assumptions. Here are six common misconceptions about the female orgasm.
Women should have an orgasm during intercourse
The Society of Obstetricians and Gynaecologists of Canada report that a third of women never achieve orgasm during intercourse, but are able to through masturbation or oral sex. Another third experience orgasm regularly, with everyone else requiring clitoral stimulation in addition to be able to climax.
Orgasms are always out-of-this world
It’s not true. Sometimes women don’t even realize they’re having an orgasm! The revealing signs might not always be present, such as loud noises of pleasure and muscle contractions. Sometimes a woman will simply feel relaxed after she climaxes.
Female ejaculation = ‘squirting’ and ‘gushing’
‘Squirting’ or ‘gushing’ is the result of a release of clear fluid from the urinary bladder. On the other hand, when a woman has an orgasm, a thick, white discharge is secreted from her vagina following a contraction of the muscles of her uterus and vagina which are engorged with blood.
A g-spot orgasm should happen
It’s possible this is true, but no one is even certain that a g-spot exists. Some women really like the sensation they receive in that area…but not all women have been able to experience this feeling. There is a lot of anecdotal evidence, but no consistent scientific experiments to prove this. It’s a mystery and a “maybe.”
If a woman can’t have an orgasm, her partner is terrible in bed
It’s not true. In fact, even though a partner can help a woman climax, it is ultimately up to her. If she can focus on the sensual pleasures of lovemaking and think more erotic thoughts, she is in a better position to have an orgasm. Of course it doesn’t hurt if her partner is attentive and skilled, but that’s not where the responsibility lies.
If she’s not having orgasms, she’s not enjoying sex
Guess what…this is false, too. Women really don’t think sex is all about the climax. And, many women do not have orgasms during intercourse, so they’re not necessarily expecting to have one anyway. It’s really important to be in the moment and enjoy the entire sexual experience. That is the truth!