New to Tantric Sex? Here are 3 Tips for Your Sexual Enlightenment

New to Tantric Sex? Here are 3 Tips for Your Sexual Enlightenment

Many of us aim to satisfy our partner when we’re making love. We want to bring our lover and ourselves, to climax. What if we let go of expectations and manipulations and really enjoyed each moment? This is similar to what tantric sex entails. The meditative approach that tantra includes wants us to be less distracted about the outcome and focus on what feels right for our lover. Here are 3 tips for your sexual enlightenment:

Pay attention to your senses
What does your lover feel, taste and sound like right then? How does it feel to move your bodies together?  Pay attention to that.  If you notice judgments arising, let them go.  Feel the moment.  Don’t worry about whether either of you are going to have an orgasm.  You get to enjoy everything that happens right then, without worrying about the end result.

Breathe together
Set a timer for five minutes, in order to let go of wondering when time is up for the following exercise (used outside of sex). Stand facing your lover and place one hand between their shoulder blades and the other at the base of their spine. Let them do the same.  Synchronize your breathing with your partner’s after you’ve focused on your own.  Do this daily.  This exercise can help you understand what it feels like to pay attention to sensation and prepare you to do the same during sex.

Take turns pleasuring each other
Practice giving your partner the physical attention they desire for a few minutes (a foot rub, for example) and then allow them to do the same, to your liking.  Providing your lover with feedback is a good idea and makes the learning process that much more effective.  If they need to be more gentle or focus on a different part of the body, it’s important that they know.

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