Timing is important for all areas of life, it seems—from landing your dream job to meeting your soulmate. It’s also necessary when it comes to sex. You’ve probably heard that the best time of the month to get pregnant is when you’re ovulating. But you may not know that certain times of the day, month, and year are ideal for other sexual goals. Read on to learn the best times to have sex depending on your goals.
When you want an amazing orgasm.
Interestingly, this is actually the day before you get your period, according to sex therapist, Laurie Watson. “When blood accumulation makes your uterus heavy, contractions are more perceptible during orgasm, and your labial and clitoral tissue tends to be more sensitive when you retain fluids,” says Watson. “Convince yourself to give sex a shot, even if you’re feeling grouchy and uncomfortable, because it may cheer you right up,” she says.
When you want it to last longer.
The best time for this would be between Christmas and New Year’s Day, when both you and your partner are more likely to be out of the office. “When you have no work pressures and are spending many hours with your mate, it’s easier to have luxurious, unhurried sex that lasts and lasts,” says Terence Watts, a psychotherapist who specializes in psychosexual problems.
When you want to drive him wild.
You’ve probably noticed that men often wake up with erections. So, rather than make him wait all day, set your alarm for 10 minutes earlier on a work day and have an early morning quickie. You might also enjoy it more. “As women age, they tend to get more tired at night, so evening sex is less desirable,” says Watson.
When you want to relieve pain.
Making love while you’re on your period can actually reduce uncomfortable cramps, according to Amy Levine, a sexologist based in New York City. “It may be because an orgasm causes uterine contractions, which ease pain, and your body releases the hormone oxytocin and the neurotransmitter dopamine, which make you feel happy and relaxed,” she says.
When you want to feel confident in bed.
Have sex after you’ve broken a sweat. One study out of the University of Florida shows that people who exercise without losing fat or gaining endurance or strength feel just as much body confidence as people who get more fit. So even if you don’t look any different after your workout, you believe you do. This improved self-esteem can make you feel more free between the sheets.
You want wild, no-holds-barred sex.
Try a steamy time of year such as in July or August, when—in most parts of the world—you’ll have more of an opportunity to have sex discreetly outside, such as in your yard or on your roof. If you’re outdoors you’ve already left your comfort zone, so you might be more likely to think outside of the box.