8 New Ways to Have an Orgasm Using a Vibrator

8 New Ways to Have an Orgasm Using a Vibrator

Maybe you have a good routine going on with your vibrator already. However, doing the same thing time and time again can get old. “It can become routine…and then monotony sets in,” says board-certified clinical sexologist Debra Laino, Ph.D. This can also put you in danger of only being able to climax when you use a vibrator. Here are a few new ways to use your vibrator:

Avoid Your Clitoris…at First
At least do this at first. “Many women have discovered that they find indirect clitoral stimulation to the side or above the clitoris even more arousing,” says clinical sexologist Kat van Kirk, Ph.D. Run your vibrator up your labia and circle your clit without touching it. Then, when you can no longer take it, go for it.

Use it On Your Neck
Take advantage of the erogenous zone that is your neck. While you’re on your bed in a comfortable position, close your eyes and lightly rub the vibrator up and down one side of your neck before going to the other side. Once you’re turned on enough, work the vibrator more south.

Be a Tease
Let your partner take your vibrator and slowly run it up and down your thighs and coming close to the clitoris, yet not touching it.

Use it When He’s There
You can use your vibrator on yourself when your partner is there, too. While you’re making out, press your vibrator up against his perineum to get things started before using it on yourself. You may also want to have your guy use it on you while you get him off.

Hand it to Him
This is a little bit of light BDSM. Have your man tie you up loosely and let him use the vibe on you any way he pleases. “There’s something exciting about not having control,” says Laino.

Prop Yourself Up
While you’re lying down in bed, put some pillows underneath your butt to prop yourself up. Run your vibrator back and forth across your nipples while your guy is giving you oral sex.

A Different Kind of Doggy Style
While you’re lying flat on your stomach, slip a clitoral vibrator underneath you and have him penetrate you from behind. This doesn’t require much effort from you, so just lay there and enjoy it.

Get a Couples Vibrator
Purchase a couple’s vibrator so you can both be stimulated at once. “Couple-oriented penis rings are a great option to make sure you get this stimulation hands-free and he gets to enjoy the sensation as well,” says van Kirk.

7 Tips on Having Sex When His Penis Is Larger Than Average

7 Tips on Having Sex When His Penis Is Larger than Average

Penises come in all shapes and sizes, just like many other body parts. Some women may consider an over-sized penis to be exciting, while others are intimidated, wondering how it will fit. Having sex with a penis that is above average (an average erect penis is 5.6 inches) can be painful for some, create stress and anxiety, and possibly cause vaginal tearing, according to certified sex therapist Kat Van Kirk, Ph.D. A vagina can usually accommodate a larger penis, but you have to be more careful. Here are some ways to proceed if your partner is large:

Acknowledge That It’s Big

You don’t have to make it a significant issue because your man might be embarrassed if he’s sensitive about his size, but being honest and upfront is a good idea. Acknowledge that his penis is large, suggest you take it slow, and then proceed.

Make Sure You Set the Pace

It’s not easy to know how your vagina is going to handle the size of his penis, so it’s necessary for you to set the pace. “Until you get used to the sensation and know how your body will respond to his larger penis, take it slow,” advises Van Kirk.

Use Enough Lubrication

The chances are good that you’ll need it, so be willing to have it on hand and apply more as needed. It’s better to use a thicker lube in this situation so that it won’t absorb as quickly.

Try Out Side-by-Side Sex

This can make it possible for you to help control the rhythm in this position and be able to hold his penis, insert it, and have control of it like a sex toy. So, if he’s getting a little too deep, you can increase the amount of length that you’re holding and less will be going into you.

Try Woman on Top

Any move that will allow you to take the lead and have him remain still are ideal, says New York City sex therapist Ian Kerner, Ph.D.

Avoid Doing it Doggy Style

If he has a penis that is long, positions such as doggy style can lead to deeper penetration. This deep penetration can cause his penis to hit your cervix, which may not feel great for you (it does for some women). If you’re into doing it from behind, try the reverse cowgirl position instead, so you still have control of the rhythm.

Have Realistic Expectations

The chances are good that you assume having sex with a large guy will lead to outstanding orgasms, but that’s not necessarily true. “Sometimes men with big penises think that’s all they need to be a gratifying lover, but a big penis doesn’t guarantee more orgasms,” says Kerner.

 

9 Foods for a Healthier Vagina

9 Foods for a Healthier Vagina

The food that you eat has a significant effect on your vaginal health, believe it or not! Vaginas that are healthy have a naturally acidic pH level and healthy bacteria that stay there to help keep away infections. But some foods can have an impact on your pH levels and even change the way your vagina smells and tastes. You need to do some work to keep things balanced down there by drinking plenty of water and eating certain foods. Read on to learn about foods that will keep your pH levels balanced and your vagina healthy.

Quinoa
Whole grains are an important part of keeping healthy and quinoa is an excellent choice to make. Quinoa is a complete protein and has phosphorus, magnesium, and manganese.

Bananas
They are filling, sweet, delicious, and also an excellent source of vitamins B6 and C, potassium, copper, biotin, and manganese .

Greek Yogurt
Yogurt has live and active cultures and is a probiotic which may be involved in maintaining a healthy pH balance for the vagina.

Sweet Potatoes
Sweet potatoes are filling and tasty. Better yet, they’re full of vitamins A, B6, and C, and manganese and potassium.

Corn
Corn comes in a variety of colors and is packed with vitamins B3 and B6, manganese, and phosphorus.

Spinach
Eating dark leafy greens is important for your overall health. Spinach is a great choice and is full of vitamins A, C, E, K, and B6, and niacin, protein, zinc, folate, calcium, thiamin, riboflavin, manganese, copper, phosphorus, and potassium!

Brown Rice
This is another excellent whole grain and is an excellent source of fiber, selenium, and manganese.

Brazil Nuts
These are a salty, convenient snack and a good source of protein, thiamin, selenium, and vitamin E.

Avocados
These are filling and delicious with a creaminess that makes them versatile. Avocados are a healthy fat and filled with fiber, folate, vitamins C and K.

 

4 Exercises to Improve a Woman’s Sex Life

4 Exercises to Improve a Woman's Sex Life

Did you know that you may be a workout away from an improved sex life? Exercise can of course help you lose weight but also sculpt your body, cause your endorphins to rise, and help you have a better time in the bedroom. Read on to learn about some stretches and exercises you can do to enhance your sex life.

Squats

These are excellent for toning and shaping the buttocks and legs. Doing a lot of pumping below the waist can also increase your ability to become aroused during sex. Squats also prepare and strengthen you for the times you want to be on top. Just stand upright with your feet apart about a shoulder-width’s length. Be sure to keep your heels on the floor and most of your weight in them as you start a bend at the waist first and then bend the knees as if you’re sitting into a chair. Keep your knees right over the ankles to protect your leg muscles and knees from injury. Make sure your shins are as vertical as possible while you’re doing this exercise.

Pelvic Tilt Pulses

This strengthens your lower back and your core, which are both often used during sex. Lie on the floor with your knees bent and your feet hip distance apart. Make sure your hands are flat on the floor, including your fingertips. Pressing through your heels, lift up your pelvis and glutes to make sure your torso is in a straight line. Keep your abs tight as you continue to press through the heels. Squeeze your inner thighs and glutes and pulse the pelvis up and down, slightly, a couple of inches only. Do your pulses (20-25) and slowly lower your spine, vertebra by vertebra until your tailbone has touched the floor. Do about three more sets.

Kegels

This exercise is an easy way to improve the strength of the pelvic floor muscles, which play an important part in orgasm. You can do kegels anywhere and either lying down, sitting, or standing. Pretend that you are trying to stop the flow of urine, hold it for three to five seconds and then repeat. Do kegels throughout the day, or even just five minutes a day.

Upward-Facing Dog

This exercise strengthens a lot of the muscle groups that are required by many sex positions. Yogis have long believed the upward dog to increase blood flow and energy to the pelvic region. Lie on your stomach with your legs apart, hip-distance, and the tops of your feet touching the floor. Move your hands to the sides of your chest and pressing through the hands, lift your torso. Lifting up all the way, roll your shoulders back and down, making sure not to hunch your shoulders into your neck by lengthening through the crown of your head. Breathe regularly for approximately 15 seconds or more.

 

6 Factors That Affect a Woman’s Fertility

6 Factors That Affect a Woman's Fertility

As a woman becomes older, her fertility decreases. However, even during her most fertile years there are external factors and lifestyle choices that can affect her chances of having a baby who’s healthy. Read on to learn some factors that affect a woman’s fertility and what you can do about them if you’re trying to get pregnant.

Obesity
Hormone production can be affected by carrying around extra pounds, which can make it more difficult for a woman to conceive. “The more weight a woman gains over her healthy weight, the more she tends to experience decreased ovarian function,” says William Schlaff, MD.

Being Too Thin
Not having enough body weight can also affect fertility. This may be because women who have BMIs that are very low are deficient in leptin, which is the hormone that controls feelings of satiety and hunger. Low leptin levels can contribute to not having menstrual periods.

Smoking
Smoking can drastically affect a woman’s chances of conceiving. It causes up to 13 percent of all infertility cases, says the American Society of Reproductive Medicine. According to Dr. Arredondo, cigarette smoke disrupts hormones and does damage to DNA in both women and men. “And it doesn’t have to be heavy smoking, either,” he says. “Even women who smoke moderately or who are exposed to secondhand smoke have disrupted endocrine function and can experience significant fertility issues.”

Alcohol
Doctors tend to caution against more than one drink a day for women (which has been connected to a higher risk for ovulation disorders). Also, a Swedish study that tracked over 7,000 women for 18 years found that those who drank the heaviest were more likely to have sought out fertility treatment. It’s important to remember that you should stop drinking if you think you could be pregnant.

Extreme Exercise
Of course working out helps to keep you in shape, which is important when you’re trying to get pregnant. But you can overdo it: “If you’re exercising too much it can have a negative impact on ovulation,” says Dr. Schlaff. If there is potentially a problem, the most obvious sign is a change in menstrual cycle. “If you notice that it becomes lighter or shorter, you should talk to your doctor about the implications for your fertility and your health,” says Dr. Schlaff.

Certain Medical Conditions
Health issues such as thyroid disease, endometriosis, uterine fibroids, and polycystic ovary syndrome (PCOS) can affect a woman’s chances of becoming pregnant or successfully carrying a pregnancy to term. Also, women with autoimmune disorders like rheumatoid arthritis or lupus may have issues conceiving since their bodies might reject a fertilized egg or attack her partner’s sperm. This doesn’t mean you can’t get pregnant, but it’s important to work with a medical team to improve and manage symptoms.

 

6 Reasons Your Vagina Might Itch

6 Reasons Your Vagina Might Itch

Gynecologists commonly see vaginal itching as a symptom their patients are experiencing. The reason your vagina itches can be a number of things, from your choice of underwear to an STD. So, it’s important to figure out what’s going in. Read on to learn some possible causes for vaginal itching.

Yeast Infection

These are common infections. In fact, three-fourths of women will have one at some point. Extreme itchiness and an odorless white discharge that is thick are well known symptoms of a yeast infection. “We suggest you at least call your doctor to discuss your symptoms rather than going to the drugstore to buy an OTC treatment,” says Julianna Schantz-Dunn, MD, an ob-gyn at Brigham and Women’s Hospital in Boston. “If you randomly self-treat and it’s not a yeast infection, you can make the problem worse,” she says

Irritation

This can be caused by certain products and fabrics. Avoid wearing scented panty liners or wearing any for too long, scented soaps, douching, and using scented feminine powders and sprays. Your vagina also needs to breathe, so wear cotton underwear. Synthetic fabrics can trap moisture against your skin. Gently wash yourself down there with unscented soap, only on the outside.

Trichomoniasis

This is a common STI caused by a parasite called Trichomonas vaginalis. The CDC says that while 3.7 million people–mostly women–are infected, only 30 percent are aware of it because it often causes no symptoms. Be sure to see your doctor right away if you experience burning, itching, a change in discharge, or external white cracking of the skin. Don’t assume it’s a yeast infection.

Bacterial Vaginosis (BV)

This is a vaginal infection that can cause some itching, but it more likely to show up in the form of foul-smelling discharge. Be sure to tell your doctor all of your symptoms, so they can more easily identify your issue.

Herpes

Not everyone who gets herpes gets large lesions that are easy to see, so you won’t necessarily spot it. “You may feel some itching or painful urination, but the symptoms may not be as severe as you’d think,” Dr. Schantz-Dunn says. “I’ve seen people try to treat herpes with a topical yeast medication—and that doesn’t do much.”

Hormones

Your vagina may be changing along with your hormonal changes if you’re post-menopausal. A dip in estrogen can thin the mucosal lining in the vagina. This can be treated with vaginal estrogen cream or tablet, thankfully!

 

9 Tips for Upping Your Chances of Getting Pregnant

9 Tips for Upping Your Chances of Getting Pregnant

It’s easy for some women to get pregnant, but others spend a lot of time — even years — trying to conceive. Read on to learn some tips that you and your partner could use to increase your chances of becoming pregnant.

Brush Your Teeth Better

Did you know that gum disease can add an extra two months to the amount of time it takes to conceive, according to research out of Australia? Be sure to get your teeth checked before you try to get pregnant.

Give Up Your Soda Addiction

According to a study co-authored by Lauren Wise, ScD, women who drink two servings of any type of soda or more a day have approximately a 16 percent lower fertility rate than women who do not drink any soda.

Exercise, But Don’t Overdo It

Wise’s research suggests that thin women who work out five hours a week or more and vigorously are 42 percent less likely to get pregnant than those who do not strenuously exercise.

Get to Sleep Early

According to research, women undergoing in vitro fertilization (IVF) treatments experience the best results when the regularly get seven to eight hours of sleep each night.

Make Sure He Doesn’t Turn Into a Couch Potato

Men who watch over 20 hours of TV a week have a 44 percent lower sperm count than those who watch next to none, according to a Harvard study.

Get Chronic Anxiety Under Control

If your stress levels become high, you can stop ovulating.

Give Up Gluten

One study out of Columbia University suggests that six percent of women with unexplained infertility have celiac disease. “They produce antibodies that may interfere with the development of the placenta,” says study author Peter Green, MD. The subjects were able to conceive within a year after they went on a gluten-free diet.

Encourage Him to Lose Weight, if Needed

According to a study, men who are overweight or obese are more likely to have low total sperm concentration and counts.

Encourage Him to Stop Smoking

According to the American Society for Reproductive Medicine, smoking leads to a lower quality of sperm; therefore, it recommends quitting smoking if you’re trying to conceive. There are many other reasons to quit smoking, too, of course!