5 Myths about Anal Sex

5 Myths about Anal Sex

Are you new to anal sex? Have you been thinking about trying, but find yourself scared due to the unknown? There are a lot of myths about anal sex that are out there and you may feel better seeing some of them debunked. Read on to learn five anal sex myths and the truth behind them.

Myth #1 – It Must be Painful

Anal sex should not be painful as long as you use lubrication, relax, take it slow and do not have hemorrhoids. You have to be gentle — especially in the beginning — because the anus is much tighter than the vagina. Take it slow and warm up. The chances are good that you haven’t followed the above instructions completely if you have experienced some pain in the past or have heard horror stories from friends.

Myth #2 – It Can’t Feel Good Because Women Don’t Have a Prostate

Pleasure during anal sex involves way more than a prostate, says Alyssa Dweck, M.D., assistant clinical professor at the Mount Sinai School of Medicine. “The anus is rich in blood vessels and nerves and thus highly sensitive, making anal play popular and erotic for some women.” Actually, one study published in The Journal of Sexual Medicine showed that 94 percent of women who received anal in their last sexual encounter had an orgasm.

Myth #3 – You Do Not Need a Condom

The chance that there is nearly no chance of pregnancy with anal sex makes it that much more pleasurable for many women. But it does carry a risk of STD transmission, so you need a condom. Also, condoms can not only prevent STD transmission they also reduce friction and make for a more smooth entry. Be sure to change condoms before switching from either vaginal to anal or anal to vaginal sex.

Myth #4 – It Will Literally Be Dirty

While it is possible to get feces particles on his penis or letting loose, it is highly unlikely. “Most waste is sitting in the lower intestine where a finger, sex toy, or penis is not going to reach,” says sex therapist Tammy Nelson, Ph.D. Your rectum only contains small fragments of feces. If you’re worried about getting anything dirty, wash your anus with mild soap and water and/or empty your bowels before having sex. This is another way a condom is useful as well.

Myth #5 – Your Butt Hole Will Stretch Out

Just because you receive anal sex does not mean you’re going to end up with a penis-sized hole. “Tissue is elastic, and the anal sphincter muscles are tightly toned, so unless you are receiving ‘larger than life toys,’ this shouldn’t pose a problem,” explains Dweck. “In fact, please ensure all toys have an easy ‘retrieval’ mechanism, like a string or base. You don’t want to lose toys inside.” It is that tight, which is one reason it feels so great for men to give it.


Can Having Too Much Anal Sex Stretch out Your Rectum?

Can Having Too Much Anal Sex Stretch out Your Rectum?

Perhaps you’re curious about anal sex or you’ve tried it — maybe you do it a lot. The truth is, anal sex mechanics can seem confusing. The big question many have is: Can anal sex do permanent damage? This is a legitimate concern. Ian Kerner, Ph.D. says he hasn’t heard of a rectum getting permanently stretched out from anal sex, but it could happen to the anal sphincter muscle, which is right at the end of the anus. “That muscle is designed to tighten to retain feces until released, so the sphincter could potentially weaken,” he says.

But you don’t have to give up butt play for fear of damaging that muscle. In fact, kegels — mainly known for strengthening the pelvic floor muscles — can also tone up the sphincter. Read on to learn a few other things you should be doing to keep your butt healthy.

Use Plenty of Lubrication

This is incredibly important for anal sex. The tissue is sensitive and the rectum doesn’t lubricate, so there is a possibility for easy tearing that would be painful. Not enough lubrication can also cause hemorrhoids, so be sure to keep things very lubricated back there,

Loosen Up

Your sphincter will probably be tense if you are. A sphincter that is tight can lead to tearing and pain, which you definitely do not want.

Use a Condom

It’s important for safe sex, of course, but particularly important for anal sex. Your anus contains a significant amount of bacteria, which is easily spreadable. Be sure that he uses a condom to protect himself from the bacteria and to keep the bacteria from getting on you during any action after penetration.

Know Your Gastrointestinal Tract

Don’t do it if you suffer from Irritable Bowel Syndrome, for example. Kerner explains that anal sex can actually trigger a bout of it, which is definitely a mood killers. Keep in mind that: “If something feels wrong, it probably is wrong,” says Kerner. “If you detect any kind of irritation, it’s time to give the butt a break.”