5 Myths about Anal Sex

5 Myths about Anal Sex

Are you new to anal sex? Have you been thinking about trying, but find yourself scared due to the unknown? There are a lot of myths about anal sex that are out there and you may feel better seeing some of them debunked. Read on to learn five anal sex myths and the truth behind them.

Myth #1 – It Must be Painful

Anal sex should not be painful as long as you use lubrication, relax, take it slow and do not have hemorrhoids. You have to be gentle — especially in the beginning — because the anus is much tighter than the vagina. Take it slow and warm up. The chances are good that you haven’t followed the above instructions completely if you have experienced some pain in the past or have heard horror stories from friends.

Myth #2 – It Can’t Feel Good Because Women Don’t Have a Prostate

Pleasure during anal sex involves way more than a prostate, says Alyssa Dweck, M.D., assistant clinical professor at the Mount Sinai School of Medicine. “The anus is rich in blood vessels and nerves and thus highly sensitive, making anal play popular and erotic for some women.” Actually, one study published in The Journal of Sexual Medicine showed that 94 percent of women who received anal in their last sexual encounter had an orgasm.

Myth #3 – You Do Not Need a Condom

The chance that there is nearly no chance of pregnancy with anal sex makes it that much more pleasurable for many women. But it does carry a risk of STD transmission, so you need a condom. Also, condoms can not only prevent STD transmission they also reduce friction and make for a more smooth entry. Be sure to change condoms before switching from either vaginal to anal or anal to vaginal sex.

Myth #4 – It Will Literally Be Dirty

While it is possible to get feces particles on his penis or letting loose, it is highly unlikely. “Most waste is sitting in the lower intestine where a finger, sex toy, or penis is not going to reach,” says sex therapist Tammy Nelson, Ph.D. Your rectum only contains small fragments of feces. If you’re worried about getting anything dirty, wash your anus with mild soap and water and/or empty your bowels before having sex. This is another way a condom is useful as well.

Myth #5 – Your Butt Hole Will Stretch Out

Just because you receive anal sex does not mean you’re going to end up with a penis-sized hole. “Tissue is elastic, and the anal sphincter muscles are tightly toned, so unless you are receiving ‘larger than life toys,’ this shouldn’t pose a problem,” explains Dweck. “In fact, please ensure all toys have an easy ‘retrieval’ mechanism, like a string or base. You don’t want to lose toys inside.” It is that tight, which is one reason it feels so great for men to give it.


Can Having Too Much Anal Sex Stretch out Your Rectum?

Can Having Too Much Anal Sex Stretch out Your Rectum?

Perhaps you’re curious about anal sex or you’ve tried it — maybe you do it a lot. The truth is, anal sex mechanics can seem confusing. The big question many have is: Can anal sex do permanent damage? This is a legitimate concern. Ian Kerner, Ph.D. says he hasn’t heard of a rectum getting permanently stretched out from anal sex, but it could happen to the anal sphincter muscle, which is right at the end of the anus. “That muscle is designed to tighten to retain feces until released, so the sphincter could potentially weaken,” he says.

But you don’t have to give up butt play for fear of damaging that muscle. In fact, kegels — mainly known for strengthening the pelvic floor muscles — can also tone up the sphincter. Read on to learn a few other things you should be doing to keep your butt healthy.

Use Plenty of Lubrication

This is incredibly important for anal sex. The tissue is sensitive and the rectum doesn’t lubricate, so there is a possibility for easy tearing that would be painful. Not enough lubrication can also cause hemorrhoids, so be sure to keep things very lubricated back there,

Loosen Up

Your sphincter will probably be tense if you are. A sphincter that is tight can lead to tearing and pain, which you definitely do not want.

Use a Condom

It’s important for safe sex, of course, but particularly important for anal sex. Your anus contains a significant amount of bacteria, which is easily spreadable. Be sure that he uses a condom to protect himself from the bacteria and to keep the bacteria from getting on you during any action after penetration.

Know Your Gastrointestinal Tract

Don’t do it if you suffer from Irritable Bowel Syndrome, for example. Kerner explains that anal sex can actually trigger a bout of it, which is definitely a mood killers. Keep in mind that: “If something feels wrong, it probably is wrong,” says Kerner. “If you detect any kind of irritation, it’s time to give the butt a break.”


5 Things You Wish You Already Knew about Sex

5 Things You Wish You Already Knew about Sex

Sex is sex, right?  There’s good sex, bad sex, dynamite sex and sex so bad that it seriously makes a person consider never having sex again.  What type of sex are you having?  If you find yourself on the lower end of the totem pole when it comes to good sex, you might want to consider a few things, and this especially applies if every sexual encounter you have turns out to be not very good.  After all, if it happens again and again, the problem is most likely you. Here’s a quick look at five things every woman should know about sex.

#1 Foreplay should be a requirement

Sure, a quickie every now and then is a great way to add a little spice to your relationship, but for the most part, foreplay should always be included within your sexual encounters.  Whether it be you stroking your man or him rubbing on you — or perhaps the both of you pleasing each other — you can never go wrong with foreplay.

#2 Talking dirty is a great way to get what you want

Men love it when women talk dirty in the bedroom.  Fortunately, this is a great way to get exactly what you want.  And don’t think that you have be so dirty that it makes you cringe.  Instead, be subtle with the words you choose, and you’ll quickly find that you are able to drive your man so crazy about you that he’ll do anything you want in the bedroom.

#3 Don’t be scared to try new positions

There’s no such thing as a wrong position as long as it doesn’t hurt you or your partner.  The more you try out new things in the bedroom, the better your sex life will be.  And you just might find that a position you’ve never tried before brings about orgasms like never before.

#4 Anal sex should be used as a reward

If you’ve never tried anal sex, you don’t know what you’re missing out on.  And while you might be scared at first, there’s really no reason to fret if you go about it the right way.  This means you need to use plenty of lubrication, and most importantly, you need to be relaxed.  Perhaps a shot or two of your favorite alcoholic beverage would be a good idea before having anal sex for the first time because it will help your muscles relax.  Do keep in mind, though, that anal sex should be used as a reward for your partner.  You can of course have anal sex every time, but what’s the fun in that, right?

#5 Lingerie can make you feel sexier than ever

It doesn’t matter how skinny you are or how overweight, there are plenty of lingerie outfits that can help shape your body perfectly, making you feel so sexy.  And when you play a little striptease with your lingerie, you’ll have your man begging for your body again and again.

Anal Intercourse: Seven Important Questions

Anal Intercourse: Seven Important QuestionsYou’ve been looking for a way to spice up your sex life.

Never in a million years did you think you would give into the idea of anal sex, but here you are considering a night of anal pleasure. And now you find yourself asking is it really going to be pleasurable for you? Do STD protection practices still apply the same with anal sex? No matter your questions, there are answers! Here’s a quick look at seven questions you probably have about anal sex:

Is anal sex going to hurt?
Anal sex is going to be much different than vaginal intercourse.  The hole on your anus is probably much smaller than the one on your vagina, so yes, it might be a bit uncomfortable at first.  However, as long as your partner takes it slow and doesn’t force his penis, then anal sex should not hurt.

Should my partner wear protection?
Yes. Just the same as vaginal sex, in order to protect yourself from STDs, your partner should wear protection.

If it hurts the first time, will it hurt the second?
You must keep in mind that any pain endured during anal sex will only occur as a result of your partner being too forceful.  The slower and gentler the two of you take things, the better it will feel.

Is it consider “weird” to have anal sex?
Absolutely not. Anal sex is often something that takes place with couples who are perfectly normal and have been together for numerous years.

Can anal sex make me more closely bonded with my partner?
Yes! As you broaden your sexual activities with your partner, the two of you are more likely to feel an enhanced bond taking place. There are many women who are strictly against anal sex, but if you show your partner that you are willing to try new things, this can greatly improve his sexual preference toward you, which is crucial in making your relationship work.

Will I suffer from anal damage?
When it comes to intercourse of any kind, if you don’t go about it the right way, there is always some type of damage that may be endured. Vaginal sex without any type of lubrication — naturally or synthetically — will lead to micro-tears in the genitalia. The same applies to anal sex. Do keep in mind, though, that the vagina naturally produces lubrication. The anus doesn’t, so you’ll likely need to use a strong lubricant.

If I have anal sex, is this the only type of sex my partner will want?
Maybe, maybe not. All men are different. The anus definitely provides additional tightness that the vagina doesn’t. However, many men still prefer vaginal sex over anus sex.

Having anal sex for the first time can be a bit scary. If you have questions that you would like answered, it’s pertinent to conduct a quick Google search. Or even more valuable is to ask your doctor, and there’s no need to feel embarrassed because there are a surprisingly large number of people who have anal sex, doctors included.