Steps for Introducing ‘Sexual Aids’ in Your Relationship

Steps for Introducing 'Sexual Aids' in Your Relationship

There are a lot of different ways for you and your partner to enhance sexual enjoyment. Some couples prefer to use what is often referred to as a “sexual aid”. Sure, sex toys such as dildos and vibrators probably come to mind, but the term includes a lot more than that. A sexual aid is anything that will either create or increase sexual stimulation or pleasure. This can mean special clothing, lubricants, sex toys, erotica, restraints for bondage, and more. Read on to learn how you can incorporate sexual aids into your sex life.

Choose What You Want
Be sure to take some time to consider what you want to add to the bedroom. Include your partner in the decision-making, especially if you’re going to be using it with them. Keep in mind that it’s OK to choose something that either of you are open to trying, but might not be sure about. You won’t know until you try.

Be Free of Expectations
You’ll only set yourself and your partner up for disappointment if you anticipate that adding something new to your sexual routine will have a certain result. Keep an open mind going into the experience.

Try it Out On Your Own
There are some exceptions, but most sexual aids can be used while you’re masturbating, so you can try them out on your own first. Trying it out yourself may increase your chances of success when you introduce it to your partner.

Experiment
Find out the variety of things you can do with your sexual aid and be creative, using your entire body, if possible. Allow yourself plenty of time to discover a few ways to make use of your new toy or other aid.

Share
Share your knowledge with your partner. If you want to incorporate this new sexual aid into sex, let you partner see how you’ve been using it to pleasure yourself. Invite your partner to explore on their own and then show you what they have learned.

Explore
Now is the time to try it out with your partner. Have fun playing and discovering ways you can use your new sexuall aid during sex. This might involve new activities or positions that you haven’t ever tried, depending on what you’re using.

Communicate
Be sure to express how your prefer that the two of you use your sexual aid and encourage your partner to communicate this, as well. Enjoy!

 

Diet May Help Those with Endometriosis and Fibroids

Diet May Help Those with Endometriosis and Fibroids

Many women in the U.S. are affected by endometriosis and fibroids. Fibroids are benign tumors that grow in the uterus and endometriosis happens when uterine lining cells grow outside of the uterus. These conditions are both potentially painful and can trigger issues with infertility. It is likely that your doctor will recommend traditional treatments for both conditions, but there are also some foods you can eat that combat both fibroids and endometriosis. Be sure to speak with your doctor before altering your diet if you have or suspect you have either of these health conditions. Read on to learn what types of foods you may want to include in your diet if you suffer from fibroids or endometriosis.

Fatty Fish

You may be able to reduce your risk of endometriosis by including fatty fish in your diet that are high in omega-3 fatty acids. You can benefit from eating omega-3 rich foods if you have fibroids, as well. These fats reduce scar formation and inflammation that are associated with fibroids. Fish that have the highest omega-3 fats include mackerel, albacore tuna, herring, and salmon.

Cruciferous Veggies

In an effort to avoid fibroids, include cruciferous vegetables such as brussels sprouts, cabbage, or broccoli in your diet. These vegetables contain compounds that combat changes in tissues in your body, which can prevent noncancerous growths, such as fibroids, from forming. The author of “Endometriosis”, Mary Lou Ballweg, points to cruciferous vegetables as being beneficial for both fibroids and endometriosis, as they have estrogen-lowering qualities.

Fiber-Rich Foods

Eating a plant based diet that is high in fiber may help protect you from endometriosis. The recommended daily intake of fiber is 25g of fiber for women and 21g if you are 51 or older. Johanna Skilling, author of “Fibroids: The Complete Guide to Taking Charge of Your Physical, Emotional and Sexual Well-Being,” suggests that upping fiber intake to 30 g per day brings down the amount of estrogen in your body, which is a hormone that triggers the growth of fibroids.

Lycopene-Rich Foods

Research featured in Nutrition Research suggests that a diet that includes lycopene can reduce the growth of fibroids. Foods high in lycopene include tomatoes, watermelon, and pink grapefruit.

 

5 Online Dating Preparation Tips

5 Online Dating Preparation Tips

These days, online dating is the norm. Sometimes it takes a lot of online dates to find the right person, if that even happens. The online dating game is really about blind dates. How do you know how to protect yourself from the more unsavory characters? You want to keep from wasting time, so read on to learn some ways you can prepare for your first online date.

Be Cautious, but Still Open
Maybe their profile painted a picture of a person who was athletic and loves to volunteer. Maybe those are lies because people often lie to get what they want. Just be cautiously optimistic on your first online date and be sure to have your best friend on speed dial if needed.

Tell Others About Your Location
It’s important to take the necessary measures to be sure you’re safe on your date, especially when you’re meeting someone for the first time. Tell your friends where you’re going, and even tag your location on social media. Meet your blind date at that location and make sure it’s in public. You don’t want to let him pick you up on your first date because then he’ll know where you live. Be safe.

Be Realistic
You don’t need to have your guard completely up, or go the exact opposite route either. Be realistic. Understand that this date is an opportunity to get to know someone new, even if you don’t end up being in a relationship. Maybe it will give you some more insight into what you want out of a relationship, your deal-breakers, etc.

Have a Short Date During the Day
A first date will ideally run approximately one to two hours and not take place any later than mid-afternoon. Try to avoid dinner because it will take up your entire evening. If you do hit it off, you can head from a coffee shop to a new spot.

Don’t Bolt
Maybe you see the your date and you want to immediately head out the door. But don’t because it’s rude and your date is a human being. Try to stick it out for at least 45 minutes, so they feel as if you’ve given them a chance. Once you let them know there’s no chemistry on your end, you can get out of there and move on to the next date. It’s unnecessary to waste anybody’s time.

 

4 Exercises to Improve a Woman’s Sex Life

4 Exercises to Improve a Woman's Sex Life

Did you know that you may be a workout away from an improved sex life? Exercise can of course help you lose weight but also sculpt your body, cause your endorphins to rise, and help you have a better time in the bedroom. Read on to learn about some stretches and exercises you can do to enhance your sex life.

Squats

These are excellent for toning and shaping the buttocks and legs. Doing a lot of pumping below the waist can also increase your ability to become aroused during sex. Squats also prepare and strengthen you for the times you want to be on top. Just stand upright with your feet apart about a shoulder-width’s length. Be sure to keep your heels on the floor and most of your weight in them as you start a bend at the waist first and then bend the knees as if you’re sitting into a chair. Keep your knees right over the ankles to protect your leg muscles and knees from injury. Make sure your shins are as vertical as possible while you’re doing this exercise.

Pelvic Tilt Pulses

This strengthens your lower back and your core, which are both often used during sex. Lie on the floor with your knees bent and your feet hip distance apart. Make sure your hands are flat on the floor, including your fingertips. Pressing through your heels, lift up your pelvis and glutes to make sure your torso is in a straight line. Keep your abs tight as you continue to press through the heels. Squeeze your inner thighs and glutes and pulse the pelvis up and down, slightly, a couple of inches only. Do your pulses (20-25) and slowly lower your spine, vertebra by vertebra until your tailbone has touched the floor. Do about three more sets.

Kegels

This exercise is an easy way to improve the strength of the pelvic floor muscles, which play an important part in orgasm. You can do kegels anywhere and either lying down, sitting, or standing. Pretend that you are trying to stop the flow of urine, hold it for three to five seconds and then repeat. Do kegels throughout the day, or even just five minutes a day.

Upward-Facing Dog

This exercise strengthens a lot of the muscle groups that are required by many sex positions. Yogis have long believed the upward dog to increase blood flow and energy to the pelvic region. Lie on your stomach with your legs apart, hip-distance, and the tops of your feet touching the floor. Move your hands to the sides of your chest and pressing through the hands, lift your torso. Lifting up all the way, roll your shoulders back and down, making sure not to hunch your shoulders into your neck by lengthening through the crown of your head. Breathe regularly for approximately 15 seconds or more.

 

6 Reasons Your Vagina Might Itch

6 Reasons Your Vagina Might Itch

Gynecologists commonly see vaginal itching as a symptom their patients are experiencing. The reason your vagina itches can be a number of things, from your choice of underwear to an STD. So, it’s important to figure out what’s going in. Read on to learn some possible causes for vaginal itching.

Yeast Infection

These are common infections. In fact, three-fourths of women will have one at some point. Extreme itchiness and an odorless white discharge that is thick are well known symptoms of a yeast infection. “We suggest you at least call your doctor to discuss your symptoms rather than going to the drugstore to buy an OTC treatment,” says Julianna Schantz-Dunn, MD, an ob-gyn at Brigham and Women’s Hospital in Boston. “If you randomly self-treat and it’s not a yeast infection, you can make the problem worse,” she says

Irritation

This can be caused by certain products and fabrics. Avoid wearing scented panty liners or wearing any for too long, scented soaps, douching, and using scented feminine powders and sprays. Your vagina also needs to breathe, so wear cotton underwear. Synthetic fabrics can trap moisture against your skin. Gently wash yourself down there with unscented soap, only on the outside.

Trichomoniasis

This is a common STI caused by a parasite called Trichomonas vaginalis. The CDC says that while 3.7 million people–mostly women–are infected, only 30 percent are aware of it because it often causes no symptoms. Be sure to see your doctor right away if you experience burning, itching, a change in discharge, or external white cracking of the skin. Don’t assume it’s a yeast infection.

Bacterial Vaginosis (BV)

This is a vaginal infection that can cause some itching, but it more likely to show up in the form of foul-smelling discharge. Be sure to tell your doctor all of your symptoms, so they can more easily identify your issue.

Herpes

Not everyone who gets herpes gets large lesions that are easy to see, so you won’t necessarily spot it. “You may feel some itching or painful urination, but the symptoms may not be as severe as you’d think,” Dr. Schantz-Dunn says. “I’ve seen people try to treat herpes with a topical yeast medication—and that doesn’t do much.”

Hormones

Your vagina may be changing along with your hormonal changes if you’re post-menopausal. A dip in estrogen can thin the mucosal lining in the vagina. This can be treated with vaginal estrogen cream or tablet, thankfully!

 

9 Tips for Upping Your Chances of Getting Pregnant

9 Tips for Upping Your Chances of Getting Pregnant

It’s easy for some women to get pregnant, but others spend a lot of time — even years — trying to conceive. Read on to learn some tips that you and your partner could use to increase your chances of becoming pregnant.

Brush Your Teeth Better

Did you know that gum disease can add an extra two months to the amount of time it takes to conceive, according to research out of Australia? Be sure to get your teeth checked before you try to get pregnant.

Give Up Your Soda Addiction

According to a study co-authored by Lauren Wise, ScD, women who drink two servings of any type of soda or more a day have approximately a 16 percent lower fertility rate than women who do not drink any soda.

Exercise, But Don’t Overdo It

Wise’s research suggests that thin women who work out five hours a week or more and vigorously are 42 percent less likely to get pregnant than those who do not strenuously exercise.

Get to Sleep Early

According to research, women undergoing in vitro fertilization (IVF) treatments experience the best results when the regularly get seven to eight hours of sleep each night.

Make Sure He Doesn’t Turn Into a Couch Potato

Men who watch over 20 hours of TV a week have a 44 percent lower sperm count than those who watch next to none, according to a Harvard study.

Get Chronic Anxiety Under Control

If your stress levels become high, you can stop ovulating.

Give Up Gluten

One study out of Columbia University suggests that six percent of women with unexplained infertility have celiac disease. “They produce antibodies that may interfere with the development of the placenta,” says study author Peter Green, MD. The subjects were able to conceive within a year after they went on a gluten-free diet.

Encourage Him to Lose Weight, if Needed

According to a study, men who are overweight or obese are more likely to have low total sperm concentration and counts.

Encourage Him to Stop Smoking

According to the American Society for Reproductive Medicine, smoking leads to a lower quality of sperm; therefore, it recommends quitting smoking if you’re trying to conceive. There are many other reasons to quit smoking, too, of course!

 

6 Things to Do When You’re Not Getting the Sex You Want

6 Things to Do When You're Not Getting the Sex You Want

Sometimes sex and passion become less intense and frequent as a relationship progresses. It’s normal. But it’s possible to keep things more passionate if you’re not getting the sex you want. Both you and your partner deserve to have your needs met. Here are some tips you can follow to be well on your way to more sexual fulfillment:

Carve Out the Time

It’s important to make time to be intimate with your partner to give the libido a chance to show up. Perhaps you might want to speak with your partner about attempting to make time once a week to be intimate. This doesn’t just mean sex, but to massage each other, talk, cuddle, and more. Request that they make the time to relax with you, allowing themselves to become interested in sex.

Get a Medical Check-up

A variety of medical issues and medications can affect the sex drive, so it’s important to rule any of that out.

No Pressure

If you and your partner are constantly worried about sex, it will make the situation feel even worse. Attempt to take it in stride.

Find Out What’s Distracting You

Maybe it’s a new job that is overwhelming — it’s common. Or, perhaps your partner is trying to catch up on the things they neglected when you two were in your honeymoon phase. Maybe one of you feels that your relationship is stable enough and intimacy doesn’t need to be worked on as much as things such as income.

Discuss Your Expectations

Be honest with your partner while having a discussion about your sexual expectations. You may find it helpful to write it all down to keep the message from getting lost in emotion if you find the two of you have different expectations.

Define Your Relationship, if You Haven’t

For example, are you monogamous, do you want this to last a long time, or are you trying to keep it casual? Your partner may think this amount of sex is enough for you if you haven’t actually had a discussion about what you’re both looking for in a relationship. You deserve the kind of relationship you want and sex life, too, so you’ll want to make sure you’re on the same page as your partner.